How to Ditch Your Hot Mess of Self Doubt & Reinvent Your Biz

Imagine this:

You’ve been loading your plate with more and more To Do’s and finishing work at “stupid-o-clock” for a while now, leaving you little time or mental bandwidth to figure out how to grow your business or create your freedom lifestyle. 

The 101 business ideas (and the resulting confusion!) each day have resulted in missed fitness classes, writing out never-ending To Do lists, another chocolate-wine-Netflix-frenzy, and long walks to try and unbox your brain of the endless chatter and uncertainty.

Attaining the life and business you dream about looks more like an uphill climb in the Outer Hebrides, than a passion project.

Self-doubt can show up in many forms and wreck havoc with your dreams. It’s your job to work on your mindset. You can’t create a life you love when your mindset is off radar.

Here’s what happened: You made your business your priority, yet deep down you know you’re sabotaging your full potential for happiness.

Like many others building a business, desperately avoiding having to go back to their salaried lives, you worry about paying bills and maintaining your status. But instead of facing the uncertainty these challenges bring, fear keeps you routed to the spot, doing the same things over and over in your business that are not producing the results you desire.

You’re scared you’ll fail, and you’re scared you’ll succeed (yes, really) and feel like an imposter either way.

So? You you coast along with what you know, wearing all the hats, even though it’s the bane of your life.

Or you blame others.

It’s not your fault your business hasn’t reached the dizzying heights of success yet, because…(insert external factor).

Sound familiar?

Well, the truth is, you’ve told yourself lies over and over again. And now? You believe them.

Excuse me while I get a bit tough with you here, but…


The only thing that’s holding you back from building a successful business, is you!


And while that might sound rather grim, it’s actually pretty good news.

Because it means you can change.

You’ve gotta take stock of where you are if you want to make your dreams happen.

You need to get so clear on your vision, because having a strong vision for your dreams will pull you forward.

So, if you want to attain your dreams and gain the clarity you need to start taking inspired action, then take out a journal and brainstorm your answers to the following four questions. Really dig deep.

  1. What business dreams do you have?
  2. What do your dreams really mean to you?
  3. How would they change your life?
  4. What are you prepared to do to make them happen?

Have your answers? Great.


So why do you think that up until now, you’ve been telling yourself you want X, but doing Y? Why have you been depriving yourself of the happiness and fulfillment you could have, if only you took action?

I’ll tell you why: Self doubt.

Luckily, self doubt isn’t a ‘forever’ diagnosis. Below, I’ve created a list of five (easy) action steps you can take to finally rise above your doubts.

1) zone into your dreams – create a vision board (on Pinterest or a self-made one on your notice board), write out your business ideas and goals (try this handy goal journal), and read magazines and books on related topics

2) create your superpower persona – write a list of all your positive attributes/ strengths/ passions into a journal and ask yourself how each could tie into your business offerings

3) use positive affirmations – notice negative self-talk about achieving your business dreams and turn each one into a positive affirmation – I love these Power Thought Cards by Louise Hay


4) assess your current signature business offerings – how do you really feel about them? Do you feel passionate about them? Do they motivate you? If you’re looking to spice up your signature offerings, take a look at what your competitors are doing. How can you differentiate from them? What’s your special sauce that will help you to stand apart from them? (look back at your super powers established in step 2)

And above all, 5) remember that growing a business is a voyage of discovery, asking yourself smart questions, and taking some calculated risks. What questions do you need to most ask of yourself now? Do some soul searching and tap into them. What would you most like to do in your business, if you could be sure you wouldn’t fail?

Completing these questions will help you to tap back into your passions and purpose.

Go in search of your treasure. And what better way to start than by reading The Alchemist by Paolo Coelho. The book that transformed my own life, and inspired me to follow my dreams. 

“People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of.”


Once you’ve got clarity from these questions and steps, it will help you to stop focusing on the fears and doubts which have had you delaying and procrastinating, and instead you’ll have created a space for inspiration within your heart and mind. From this space, you’ll be ready to take the “inspired action” which feels authentic and connected to your dreams.

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Finding Freedom From Your 9-5


How to Connect With Your Passions & Change Your Lifestyle


Could Your “Money Personality” Be Sabotaging You?

Finding Freedom From Your 9-5

FINDING FREEDOM from your 9-5 ought to be an exciting prospect, but for many it remains just a dream. Waiting for the “right time”, the “right amount of money”, the possibility of a “redundancy payout”.

Waiting for….something, anything, You know how the story goes…

Dreams keep us entertained when we’re bored, hopeful when we’re feeling frustrated or stuck.

But the problem is, we get caught up in that thing called “life”, responsibilities, working our butts off for someone else, and in our fears.  Through lack of attention or self-belief, our dreams fade, feel impossible, or intangible.

“ To any entrepreneur: if you want to do it, do it now. If you don’t, you’re going to regret it.”



RECONNECTING WITH YOUR DREAM is fundamental for your psyche, and your happiness. Your dreams are there to inspire you and push you to become a better person, more fulfilled and enriched.

But staying stuck in an unfulfilling job, with a lifestyle that underplays your potential, isn’t any fun, when you know you’ve got so much more to offer. Like running your own business, which is in alignment with who you or who you want to become.

To achieve your dream, you must re-connect it fully, embrace it like you’re actually dating. *smooch*

For that to happen, you need to devote time to it, get clear on what it looks and feels like to you, who you’ll serve, and then gain the confidence to move forwards.

It’s like marriage of sorts – you’ll even get to cuddle on the sofa and wake up with it!

GETTING STARTED How many times have you thought about your idea (or ideas, perhaps?) and then got totally sidetracked by life, responsibilities, fear and apprehension?

Do you wonder or doubt if your idea is any good? If it will make you enough money? Do you question: who am I  to do this?  and whether you’ve got what it takes to become an entrepreneur.

I’m not going to lie.

It takes guts and determination to start your own business.

And even more to actually make it work.

To push through when all seems against you. When you’re having a bad day, month, week, or even year, and you think, “Am I going to have to go back to my 9-5? Has all my hard work been in vane?  

This is normal. You’ll hit tremendous highs, and there will be lows. It comes with the territory.

That’s why I recommend you do mindset work from the outset. And, that you get a mentor or coach, or a join a network of entrepreneurs, who’ll encourage you along the way.

And above all else, just begin…


TAKING THE FIRST STEPS Before you begin, there are a number of considerations: whether you should go all in, or if you should run your business as a side hustle, until you’re making enough money.

Both ways have their benefits and limitations, and really it’s what works best for you. Do the sums. Work out what are your financial outlays. Do a general evaluation of how you’ll support yourself whilst you build up your business.

Before you begin your business (or proceed further into your fledgling business) there are fundamental questions you need to answer: What is my business mission? Who will I serve? What are my offerings? How do I want my lifestyle to change? How often do I want to work? What’s important to me and what are my passions, and is there a way I could weave them into my business idea?

To explore this theme and get more clarity, go to my handy guided visualisation which will help you arrive at your high level vision for your future lifestyle and business.

PLANNING FOR THE FUTURE Once you’re decided on your general business vision, it’s tempting to jump straight in, and whilst I do advocate this (because there’s no time like the present), I also advocate balancing your raw energy and enthusiasm with a certain degree of planning.

Whether you’re still in your 9-5 and wanting to escape or have left and are “all in”, then it’s essential that you create a roadmap. It doesn’t have to be all encompassing, but if you are to stay focused and organised, then you do need to identify your goals and map out your milestones and dependencies.

This will help you to prioritise your time, stay focused, and level headed, because, trust me, when you’re in the “dream up” stage of business (which can last years!), then there can be a tendency to meander and deliberate on ideas, and be reactive.

If you have a clear plan for how you’re going to reach your goals, it makes it more likely you’ll achieve them. You’ll know what you want to achieve and have established action items and milestones to help you get there.


GAINING MOMENTUM Once you’ve got your roadmap  and you’re working solidly towards your goals, it’s important to keep momentum going, otherwise even best made plans can slip.

The best way to keep momentum going is to regularly remind yourself of your BIG WHY – the reason you want/ed to start your business in the first place. This is your prime motivating factor.

If you don’t have a clue what that is for you, I highly recommend that you do some inner work around this, as it can be one of the determining factors of the success or failure of a business.

A positive and confident mindset is also a key momentum driver. There’s a lot you can do to improve your mindset, and I highly recommend for you to do daily work around this.

Firstly, you’ll need to identify any beliefs which are holding you back or limiting you, and then challenge and counter them.

A positive mindset is EVERYTHING – many people don’t get their business ideas off the ground, and others are held back for years due to fear and self-doubt, finding themselves forced back into having to work another 9-5 – the very thing they wanted to escape from in the first place.

My 6-week program Kickstart Your Online Biz helps you to identify and validate your business idea, establish your business vision and clarify your BIG WHY, strengthen your mindset, and map out your roadmap, alongside many other business-building activities.

Find out more about the program HERE.

“Do. Or do not. There is no try.”



How to Connect With Your Passions & Change Your Lifestyle
Entrepreneur Spotlight: Jessica Dornieden


Could Your “Money Personality” Be Sabotaging You?

Ooh you’re in for a treat today, a guest post from the inspirational money mentor, Denise Duffield-Thomas.



You know the feeling you get when you do “that thing” around money AGAIN?

Spend wildly on a new extravagance even though bills are due…

Hoard every penny even though you really want to splurge on a vacation…

Forgo a spa treatment because your daughter really wants that new pair of designer jeans…

Whatever you do with money, I bet you don’t just do it once. Most of us have habits with money — some of which serve us, and some which definitely do not.

So we do “that thing” again, and inside we feel unhappy. It’s not that we don’t want to treat ourselves, or save up money, or buy our loved ones special gifts.

It’s just that we feel like we’re making money decisions on autopilot. Like we’re not in control of the situation, and we’re not so sure we’re crazy about the results of our actions.

Well, what if I told you that you have a unique “money DNA” which is where those habits come from?

Even better, what if I told you that you could “crack the code” on your money DNA and start to leverage your money strengths, while compensating for your weaknesses — so you could stop repeating that same old money story and start living a new one?

You might wonder if it’s even possible to have a brand-new money story, especially if you feel like your habits are deeply ingrained.

If so, I hear you. I TOTALLY used to feel that way. I wasn’t born into any special privilege, and I didn’t have strong money models growing up.

Today, I run a multi-million dollar business that’s touched the lives of tens of thousands of women around the world. There was a time, though, when I felt like maybe, despite the fact that I had big dreams and was putting a ton of hard work into them, I wasn’t cut out for the success I dreamed of.

When I started my business several years ago, I used to run goal-setting workshops around town. I’d print the flyers at home (that I designed myself on Powerpoint no less) and tack them up on café notice boards.

One day, while driving to give one of my workshops, the felt ceiling of my car fell down around my head. I was literally driving to a workshop to inspire others to have more, be more, and do more… and the roof of my car was sagging down around my ears.

I realized in that moment that my money life needed a reset. I already knew how to manifest lots of things and experiences, but when it came to money, things just weren’t going the way I’d planned. I started to think maybe I didn’t have it in me to create a thriving business from my passion — that maybe it was never going to be my turn.

All of that changed, though, when I discovered Sacred Money Archetypes®.

For the first time in my life, I got a glimpse of what was possible for me if I would just work toward my strengths, instead of battling my weaknesses.

And for the first time, I got answers about why I’d put so many seeming obstacles to success in my own path. Turns out they weren’t actually obstacles, but rather preferences that, with a few simple tweaks could be capitalized on in a BIG way.

What are Sacred Money Archetypes®?

Well, remember I mentioned “money DNA” a minute ago?

Sacred Money Archetypes® is the work (created by Kendall Summerhawk) that will help you unlock your unique DNA around money, so you can use it to your advantage instead of letting it silently sabotage you.

(And yes, I’m speaking figuratively here — I know this isn’t “the” DNA that makes up living things! It’s just as important, though — especially if you want wealth and success in your future.)

Within your unique money personality is the seed of a healthy relationship to money — a code just like “the other” DNA — with all the potential to create any level of wealth, freedom, and fulfillment you can imagine.

This means you are designed to succeed. You just have to know how to move forward with the right knowledge about how to take care of yourself based on how you naturally show up with money.

I’m SO thankful I discovered this about myself with the Sacred Money Archetype® work — because as soon as I knew how to work with my innate “money DNA” my business really started taking off, and I found that my old self-sabotaging habits fell away.

The change for me was so profound that I became a certified coach in Kendall Summerhawk’s Sacred Money Archetypes® method and for years, I’ve been teaching it only on private retreats and with my one-to-one clients.

(Totally secret!)

Until now.

For the first time ever, I’m bringing the Sacred Money Archetypes® training to YOU.

Best of all, you can get started absolutely FREE.

>> Take My Free Lucky Money Quiz Now to discover your unique Sacred Money Archetypes®

The Sacred Money Archetypes quiz and training series is a brand-NEW offering, and is the perfect complement to any entrepreneur’s journey.

Whether you’re just getting started or you’ve been building your business for years, the thing about your money personality is that it doesn’t change. Who you are at the start of your business is who you are 10 years in.

The key to breaking the habits that keep you from having ALL the success you really want, is understanding what makes you tick and knowing how to change it.

So, what about you? Are you still self-sabotaging around money?

Do you find yourself under-earning — or earning plenty but never knowing quite where it all went? Are you plagued with emotions like fear, guilt, or shame around money? Do you cringe when trying to decide how to spend it?

There are endless ways we sabotage ourselves with money, especially when it comes to growing our businesses. The truth is, though, YOUR way is simply related to your particular Archetype.

In fact, as part of the training, I’m revealing what MY primary Archetype is, as well as exactly how I’ve used this knowledge to work around my own imperfections (we’ve all got ‘em, gorgeous) and create a multi-million dollar business PLUS a relaxed lifestyle I love, with plenty of time for all the people and things that are most important to me.

You may be very interested to learn, for instance, that I have this ONE characteristic you’d probably never associate with being a successful, multi-millionaire entrepreneur!

(You’ll want to watch Video #2 in the series to see if you relate to this one.)

To get started, take the quiz HERE and discover how your money personality may be sabotaging you, and exactly what to do about it.

You’ll discover SO much about yourself and your unconscious money beliefs just by taking the quiz — but remember, I’m not stopping there, because after you get your results, you’ll automatically be enrolled in a free video training program to help you apply what you’ve learned straight away.

I know from experience how powerful it is to understand your unique ‘money DNA’ and leverage it in your life and business, so you can stop sabotaging yourself when it comes to money.

Honestly, it’s like pressing ‘reset’ on your money story! When you know what’s been holding you back, you can pave a brand-new path to a brighter future with the financial freedom and impact you really want (not to mention being able to manifest everything on your dream board).

I’m sooo thrilled to offer the Sacred Money Archetypes® training to you. I know it will be life-changing for you, and I can’t wait to see you “on the inside.”

It’s your time, and you’re ready for the next step.

Xx Denise

P.S. I hope you enjoy discovering your money archetype. I don’t often recommend things, however, I deeply trust Denise and believe in her work wholeheartedly. I’m also a proud affiliate, which means I may earn a commission if you decide to join one of Denise’s programs at some point. Sharon xox